Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself
Written By: Rebekah Wilson
Are you caught in a cycle of second-guessing your past decisions or overwhelmed by the pressure of what you think you “should” have done? You’re in the right place. Hi, I’m Rebekah, an associate marriage and family therapist at Roubicek and Thacker. With my background in EMDR Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotionally Focused Therapy, I help clients challenge the narratives that keep them stuck in judgment and self-criticism.
Welcome to another installment of my video blog series, where I offer tools, reflections, and insights to support your emotional well-being. In this video, we’re talking about a concept I like to call “Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself.” We’ll explore the habit of living in hindsight—those thoughts like “I should have,” “I could have,” “Why didn’t I?”—and how this mindset keeps us disconnected from the present moment and from our ability to make empowered choices.
In past videos, we’ve covered anxiety reduction and mindfulness tools, and this topic ties closely to both. By learning to release judgment and accept where you are right now, you can reduce anxiety, find more clarity, and take meaningful steps forward. This video invites you to pause, get grounded, and practice the kind of self-awareness that leads to genuine growth and peace.
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